Recently at work I've been a bit speechless, but I truly feel it: you can't be too easy to talk to, you end up agreeing to everything, and your own comfort is what matters most.
When I first arrived at the shop, the plan with the person I was pairing with was for each of us to do half the work. Now she is getting lazier and pushes everything onto my part-time workload.
Now for me:
Shift pairing:
That’s basically it... The originally agreed half-and-half; at noon today he asked me: "Hey, why didn't you mop your area?"
My mind was full of question marks: "I’ve done everything for you, what are you doing?"
So learning to refuse is very important. It was originally her idea to help; I did it that day, and the next day she actually pressured me, treating it as my work—it's really ridiculous.
If I had refused or dodged it at the time, there wouldn’t be so many problems. Luckily it’s a part-time job; I’ve learned the hard way.
We are two people; on the second day after starting, seeing how much work this elder sister has, I casually said: "Sis, you have so much work; a few days ago at another shop, others didn't have as much work as you."
Okay, this sentence got through to her; in the future, whenever there’s a little boss around, she would pretend to be weak and say: "Hey, look, the store's little boy part-timers all say I have so much work."
When I was there, she would signal to me; I would just look at her, not wanting to talk, and even as several bosses or managers kept appearing, they all spoke.
Also my fault: I shouldn’t have spoken; some things should be thought through before saying them, or it will just lead to more chatter.
Whether there is a lot or not, I know it in my heart: when I joined, they dumped everything on me and bragged about how much; the kid who can cry really has milk to drink.
Learn to keep quiet, learn to think before you speak; colleagues are just colleagues. It’s okay now; I only mentioned there was a lot of work, but if I mentioned someone else’s things, a big mouth would spread it by tomorrow.
Fortunately it’s only a part-time job; it’s been a serious lesson to keep my wits about me.